The Long Goodbye of Illness

by Sheri Dean Parmelee | January 8, 2021 | Caretakers, Family Members, Suddenly Single, Terminally Ill Spouses, Widows & Widowers
Hello everyone: It’s been said that Alzheimer’s Disease is “the long goodbye” but I have a good friend whose husband passed after battling cancer for six years. That could also be called “the long goodbye” because of the years they spent watching him get treatment. Her devotion to her dying husband was evident in every glance they shared and I really admire her for her “till death do us part” commitment that she lived out. In this day and age, it seems so easy to bale out when the rough times happen, but she hung in there until the...
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Be Adventurous in Your new Life

by Sheri Dean Parmelee | July 23, 2020 | Divorcees, Suddenly Single, Widows & Widowers
Hi everyone: Wow- if you had told me I would go kayaking in a river near my childhood home at the age of… well, never mind,… I would have said you were crazy. Really? Me? Kayaking? Folks, my idea of roughing it is the Hilton Garden Inn. My idea of fun is shopping at nice malls and picking up bargains.  I do not do things that cause me to become windblown or sopping wet, in public. I do not pull off to the side of the road, walk through weeds, and enter the river. I just don’t. Until I...
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Be Careful What You Sign

by Sheri Dean Parmelee | June 21, 2020 | Divorcees, Suddenly Single, Uncategorized
Hello everyone: I was talking with a gal recently who told me what could have been a very sad story. (Though it turned out well, I suppose you could say that it was still sad in many ways.) It seemed that, a few years before, her identity had been stolen when some crooks got a hold of her bank account number. They had rented an apartment in her name and then set things up so that their rent was automatically withdrawn from her account. Fortunately for her, she balanced her accounts on a monthly basis and discovered the theft...
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Overcoming the New Normal in Your Family’s Life

by Sheri Dean Parmelee | May 30, 2020 | Divorcees, Suddenly Single, Uncategorized
Hello everyone: So, it’s happened. You ex has replaced you. It didn’t take long, all things considered, and now you need to deal with it….and with comforting your kids. Whether your ex replaced you in two months or two years, you are going to face the new person in your family at all large or important family gatherings, so you need to decide how you are going to handle it. Like I used to tell my kids when they were little and had to do something they didn’t want to do, “we can do this nice or we can...
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Overcoming Being Alone

by Sheri Dean Parmelee | May 17, 2020 | Divorcees, Suddenly Single, Uncategorized
Hello everyone: We have been fighting this pandemic for ten weeks now- time flies, doesn’t it? Perhaps you are wondering how to get back into life, once things return to what they are now saying will be our new normal. How about starting a single group for folks in your age group at your local church? What better way is there than to start a group with folks of like-interests? In my case, I go to a church that (pandemics aside) seats 10,000 people on a Sunday morning. Out of that large a crowd, I know about ten single...
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Don’t Worry If You’re Talking to Yourself, Only Worry If You’re Answering Back: Oh, No!

by Sheri Dean Parmelee | May 9, 2020 | Caretakers, Divorcees, Suddenly Single, Uncategorized, Widows & Widowers
Hello everyone: There used to be a saying “don’t worry if you’re talking to yourself, only worry if you’re answering back.” Thanks to the COVID 19 virus, I passed that a long time ago! One month is bad enough, but two months of self-isolation are even worse. At some point in time, I caught myself having conversations with myself. Full conversations. What’s a single gal to do? Here are some suggestions to help lift the fog and dissipate those clouds of conversational uncertainty. First, talk to Siri on your phone. I changed my Siri voice to that of a...
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Having a Male Friend If You’re Female Can be a Good Thing

by Sheri Dean Parmelee | May 2, 2020 | Divorcees, Suddenly Single, Uncategorized, Widows & Widowers
Hello everyone: I met the most delightful widow today. We were both on a walk, headed in opposite directions, when I admired her sporty little hat. She smiled and, in the next few minutes, she told me that she is in her late seventies and has been widowed for four years. Her late hubby died of pancreatic cancer. She was alone and really feeling it, except for a daughter who lived nearby. One day, she went in to get her car serviced when the mechanic told her he knew a man who she should meet. She smiled but left...
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Before You Re-Do Those “I do’s” You Might Want to Ask Some Questions

by Sheri Dean Parmelee | April 27, 2020 | Divorcees, Suddenly Single, Uncategorized
Hello everyone: Sometimes it feels so nice to be back in a relationship that you throw caution (and your good sense) to the wind and fall madly in love. Or, at the very least, into very strong like. But you might want to proceed with a whit of the common sense you were born with. Really, how well do you know this person? He or she might be the kind of person who flatters you, brings you gifts, and spends quality time with you. This person might be completely legitimate. Or not. It’s the “or not” that you need...
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Staying Sane in a COVID19 World

by Sheri Dean Parmelee | April 25, 2020 | Divorcees, Suddenly Single, Terminally Ill Spouses, Uncategorized, Widows & Widowers
Hello everyone: The practicality of keeping your mind intact during the COVID19 pandemic might be a no-brainer (well, actually it would be the opposite, technically speaking) but how does someone who lives alone keep his or her mind? Good question. You see television commercials that assume you have a boatload of folks living with you, when your reality is that there is no one. The PSA Powers that Be hint very loudly and often that the ONLY safe place is in your home. Going outside, even to the grocery, could be fatal. Well, there is that possibility. If you...
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Outhouses Aren’t Pretty and Divorce Isn’t Either

by Sheri Dean Parmelee | April 22, 2020 | Divorcees, Suddenly Single, Uncategorized
Hello everyone: Outhouses. They stink. They are, shall we say, less than hygienic. They are frequently right there, out in the open (think construction sites and roadway work here). But they are sometimes necessary. Okay, so I will confess that the reason I don’t run marathons is because of the bathroom facilities. My idea of “roughing it” is the Hilton. I was talking to a friend of mine this afternoon about divorces. They are frequently messy, hurtful experiences. They can pit two perfectly decent folks against one another. What might be the most difficult season of this time of...
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