Hello everyone:

What in the world do worms have to do with a foundation or with you? My sister-in-law is a gardener and she says that worms are essential for having good soil and, therefore, a good garden.

Much like a garden, our relationships need to have a good foundation. If you have just met someone, it is easy to think that they hung the moon, especially if you are a new widow or widower or a new divorcee. Sadly, there can be such a hurry to not be lonely anymore that we miss out on the foundation of that relationship, or the worms, if you will.

What are some worms? Having a spiritual foundation is vital, so that we are not unequally joked, but it is also important to make sure that we are not so eager to be in a relationship that we overlook who that person really is. How well do we know someone? One of my friends actually bought a house with her boyfriend, only to find out later that he wasn’t the person she thought he was. He turned out to have an anger problem, in addition to being rather unpleasant in general. She hadn’t focused on the worms in her haste to be involved with someone quickly.

What worms do you recommend that someone has before launching into a relationship?

Best,

Dr. Sheri